This has been a theme in many of my conversations lately and so I thought it would be a great time to throw this simple reminder out into the blogosphere.
We all know how the story goes… when you were young and dating it was all about fun. Of course it was, at that point you did not even fully understand what the word responsibility meant. As things progressed past just phone calls with your special friend (and emails or text messages depending on your age) to non-stop hanging out, you were all about having fun.
I bet you could tell many stories of your ice skating, roller skating, picnicking, bowling, movie going, tennis playing, putt-putt competing days. We all have those stories and they are all unique to the way that God brought us together with that person who has become our spouse. We knew how to have fun… laugh for hours on end… and completely lose track of time while not complaining about needing to be in class or at work first thing the next morning.
What happened? Well, obviously life happened. Many of us have children and all sorts of responsibilities not the least of which is probably a stressful career and all sorts of financial obligations. I know… life happens. The fact that life happens is no excuse for you and your spouse to no longer have fun.
We dismiss the importance of having fun with our spouse because everything else seems so much more important. I’m going to get a little edgy here and say that I don’t believe that most of those things are near as important as a married couple having fun together.
In God’s great and unimaginable sovereignty He has connected your story beautifully with the one whom you are spending the rest of your life. He made that miraculous move, as he does others, for your great joy. So it is so antithetical to God’s intention for marriage that joy diminishes as the years increase.
Having fun with your spouse is deeply spiritual. God brought that gift to you for your joy and with joy we are to worship Him. Having fun with your spouse will make you a better parent who displays a God-honoring marital love before your children. Having fun with your spouse will construct bridges over the chasms of hurt and frustration that has accumulated over the week, month, or years. Having fun with your spouse will make undeniable strides ahead in your physical intimacy together.
Look, I am the least ‘fluffy’ guy you will ever meet. That being said, one of the most profound challenges that I can extend to you today in your marriage relationship is to WORK HARD at having fun. What if you took the initiative to plan a fun evening or even overnight adventure for you and your spouse? Even simply planning an hour or two together having fun can be so incredibly joyful, healing, and encouraging for any marriage.
Take the challenge today and do whatever it takes to get away with your wonderful, God-given spouse and HAVE FUN. Even if it is just a baby step of one or two hours, take action and make it a new priority in your routine as husband and wife to have fun together.